DIVORCE COSTS DEVASTATE THE FINANCES OF A MAN WHO IS DISABLED AND UNEMPLOYED; THAT WAS LINDON'S SITUATION IN 1990 IN THE AFTERMATH OF HIS 1986 ACCIDENT INJURIES AND AFTER HIS FINANCES WERE DESTROYED BY HIS MOTHER AND HIS WIFE.

 

Monday 21 November 2022

DRUNKY DOES THE MATH

THE DIVORCE MATHEMATICS ARE DEPLORABLE. HOW DOES A MAN RECOVER FROM PAYING OUT HALF THE VALUE OF WHAT HE OWNS WHILE HE PAYS OUT A HUGE PORTION OF HIS INCOME.

WHEN HE WAS BEING DIVORCED LINDON'S FINANCES AND ABILITY TO WORK WERE WORSE.

LINDON'S EX-WIFE HAD TAKEN OVER THE FAMILY FINANCES AND THE  BREADWINNER ROLE IN 1984. SHE SPENT EVERYTHING HE HAD AND PUT HIM INTO DEBT AS WELL. RIGHT AT THE END OF THIS, IN DECEMBER 1986 LINDON WAS CRASHED INTO BY A LEFT TURNING CAR AND HE HAD TO SLEEP EVERY FEW HOURS. HE WAS ALSO EXTORTED FOR EVERY DOLLAR HE COULD EARN WHILE HE WAS IN A STATE OF FUGUE. HE HAD A $800. CAR AND RAGGED CLOTHING, HE HAD NOT SPENT A CENT ON HIMSELF FOR ABOUT TEN YEARS BY 1990.

SOME MEN, INCLUDING LINDON FOUND IT TO BE ABSOLUTELY TERRIFYING THAT NO ACT ERROR NOR OMISSION WAS NECESSARY ON HIS PART, THE WIFE COULD FLUSH HIM AT WILL.

WITH NOTHING TO LOSE AND MONEY AND POWER AND PUNISHMENT AT THEIR FINGERTIPS, WHAT DO YOU THINK WOMEN WOULD DO? 

WHAT ABOUT THE DIVORCE THREAT EXTORTION WORST CASE SCENARIO?

IMPOVERISHED BY THE DEMANDS WHICH WERE MET, NOW THERE WAS A DEMAND FOR EVEN MORE MONEY.

THE MONEY WOULD HAVE TO BE BORROWED ON TOP OF THE OTHER BORROWED MONEY WHICH HAD TO BE PROVIDED TO MEET THE DIVORCE THREAT EXTORTION. USUALLY, I WOULD ASSUME THAT THE MONEY COULD NOT BE BORROWED AND THE MAN WOULD HAVE TO SELL HIS HOUSE AND THEN PAY BOTH RENT AND DIVORCE MONEY.

IT LOOKS LIKE THE LAW HAS TO BE RE-DONE TOO.

HEY! CHECK THIS THAT FLOATED IN. LINDON'S DIVORCE DID NOT MEET THIS REQUIREMENT. WHAT NOW? CHECK THIS.WHAT NOW?

What is a “no-fault” divorce in BC?

To establish the breakdown of a marriage, you and your spouse must have lived apart for at least a year or be able to prove adultery or cruelty.

In the majority of cases, the spouses file for a “no-fault divorce” based on 12 months of separation.

Separation usually means that they live in separate residences though that is not strictly required providing they live separate lives financially, romantically, and socially. In such cases, there is no need to prove any fault and it can save a lengthy court battle.